还没跟男友结婚，他家已经跟我们借钱两回了

这种条件的男人建议分

this is ridiculous.
In North America, money should be seperated.
Everybody get on with his/her life!

Don't walk, Run!!

赶紧分啊

我年轻的时候也因为类似的原因离开过npy。。我自己原生家庭很简单，对方那么复杂的家庭结构让我甚至觉得不太安全（对方家庭不光是借钱这么简单），所以我就被吓跑了。。但还是要感谢前任对我的坦诚，在我还没有陷入太深的时候就跟我坦白了，还来得及跑。
楼主就有点陷入太深了。。要么快刀斩乱麻的赶紧跑，要么劝男朋友跟父母说清楚，不愿意掏钱（但是我估计他暂时做不到。。），要么就是接受今后鸡飞狗跳的日子，然后祈祷有一天你男友受够了然后和他家里人分割干净。。

匿名者 发表于 2022-5-31 00:46
估计楼主的苦日子还在后头呢。
我的男友典型feng huang nan，谈恋爱的时候， 觉得他人很实在，虽然他家里 ...

I grew up in a similar family that my "father" is from a poor family. They behave exactly like what you describe here about your husband. In addition, my "father" curse my mom and beat me even if he lives in a house offered by my mom's company and never do any house work - lying on sofa like a pig every day while command my mom to do this and that. His families kept borrowing money from him in creative ways, remember, those are parasites who know nothing but how to feed themselves others' blood.
At my 30s, I finally had my fight back and convinced my mom to divorce. Even though, those animals figure out a way to occupied another house of ours, and now it's their property. Divorce hurts, at the beginning, but it definitely worth it now!
If you can, set your boundary immediately, as clear as you can. Otherwise, it's just a painful journey that some day you'll realize a shitty marriage cost you decades for nothing but regrets.

等结婚了，再找你要钱，给不给呢？不给，那吵架？离婚？给的话，你养活他父母还有他哥他嫂子他侄子侄女？

姐妹别做绝世大冤种

姐妹如果这是人民币的话，你要好好看看了，连两万五万都好意思找没过门的儿媳妇借的都啥人啊，而且不是急是为了另一个没过门的儿媳妇。。。。。你给你爸妈讲讲，你就知道了，多跟爸妈沟通

你男朋友自己彩礼还没有，却要用你的钱给哥哥办彩礼。你男朋友怎么想的？
感觉你们的钱混一起不是什么好事啊。楼主小心。