要求约会经验分析

感觉money/是否为ABC身份在这段关系中不是一个问题。
深层原因是双方都没有很深爱。楼主生气的深层原因应该是对方没有展现出对你真的很care，否则即使不帮忙买单，生日或者特别的occasion她至少应该会且需要表示？
move on然后date下一个才是正解。

求加米👻

你到底是男生女生啊？

a84851 发表于 2022-7-31 12:14
1. Not appreciate for gesture - it’s not about money, it’s about communication. Maybe she’s not g ...

1. Don't think she's bad at communicating or I'm asking for too much feedback. She literally doesn't say anything. No thank you or body language appreciating. Just a neutral stance lol.

2. She only met the guy and started talking to him after it was called off between us the second time. Don't know the specifics, but at most, she knew him for two weeks max. Honestly, me not asking for exclusitivity was on me. I did ask her to be my girlfriend after a while though, but she just said she wanted some more time to think about it. I'm sure this can come off a red flag, but I thought it was fair, since we didn't understand each other well enough at that point. Personally, not a big fan of seeing multiple people at once during the talking stage, so I was just focused on her. Wasn't really an issue for me for my previous dating experiences. idk, honestly just pretty naive in certain aspects of dating. So this experience definitely helped open my eyes.

Definitely felt there was a decent amount of communication going on, just that I was too wishy washy on my wants and don't wants, which led to this.

geniusroger2000 发表于 2022-7-31 06:56
家有两个小孩，就想问楼主的中文怎么学的🤣

在家跟父母只用中文沟通.小时候上中文学校到中学 后来就在家跟父母一起看中文字幕的节目.现在就偶尔刷抖音to keep up with trends and slang

extrovert 发表于 2022-7-31 13:28
你到底是男生女生啊？

我男她女

我已经move on学到教训了 第一次见过这种把我当备胎的 只是想分享跟看看是不是很常见或是我不够懂中国的dating norm 看来只是运气不好加上我stay too long

瞧把ABC难为的,打这么多谷歌翻译出来的中文哈哈哈哈哈

你遇上SB了,只能这么说,立刻move on!

很多"大师"会各种总结分析,包括你自己的这些分析也好反思也好,没多大意义,你只需要遵循你的直觉就够了,我也不想废话太多,其实你都知道的

最后,不要考虑所谓成长环境不同价值观不同,如果真的不同那就更应该直接move on,而不是为其寻找其中的合理性

楼主果然abc 这中文看得我好费劲….. 感觉不是钱的问题是你女朋友觉得你不爱她了
“生活工作上发生了些事情所以没办法见面，不想给她压力所以没有特别communicate “所以你们跟陌生人有什么区别呢？ 沟通不好感情就渐渐淡了啊

补充内容 (2022-08-01 05:14 +08:00):
谈恋爱就是谈钱和时间 如果两个人都愿意付出那就可以走下去 如果都不愿意付出或者一头一直付出那就很不健康走不下去

歪个楼。楼主作为ABC，这中文水平真是杠杠的，连“恋爱脑”这个词都能写出来。

自私的不要