老板言语不当report to HR会怎么样？

如题。求有类似经历的分享。

"HR is not your friend"

The utmost responsibility of HR is to minimize company's legal risks whichever relevant to personnel.

HR has nothing to do with justice. It never was.

lz可以做下面这几个事情：
1. 首先分析一下你的老板言语不当属于哪个类型。比如：a. verbal bullying or b. harassment or c. discrimination, etc。当然，这需要你首先了解每一类的具体定义。
a. verbal bullying/abuse:
Here are some examples of what normal disagreements look like:

• They don’t dissolve into name-calling or personal attacks.
• They don’t happen every day.
• Arguments revolve around a basic issue. They aren’t character assassinations.
• You listen and try to understand the other’s position, even when you’re angry.
• One of you may yell or say something truly awful out of frustration, but it’s an unusual occurrence and you work through it together.
• Even if you can’t agree completely, you’re able to compromise or move on without punishments or threats.
• Arguments aren’t a zero-sum game: One person won’t win at the detriment of the other.
  

Consider it a red flag when the other person engages in these behaviors:

• They insult or attempt to humiliate you. Then they accuse you of being overly sensitive or say that it was a joke and you have no sense of humor.
• They frequently yell or scream at you.
• Arguments take you by surprise, but you get blamed for starting them.
• The initial disagreement sets off a string of accusations and dredging up of unrelated issues to put you on the defense.
• They try to make you feel guilty and position themselves as the victim.
• They save their hurtful behaviors for when you’re alone but act completely different when others are around.
• They get into your personal space or block you from moving away.
• They hit the wall, pound their fists, or throw things.
• They want credit for not having hit you.
  

b. harassment

• Sexual harassment: a supervisor asks an employee to engage in sexual activity as a condition of receiving some form of benefit at work (a promotion, a raise, retention in his/her job, etc.);
• Non-Sexual harassment: harassing conduct and workplace bullying create an abusive work environment for an employee.
  

c. discrimination

• Discrimination based on sexual orientation
• Gender-based discrimination including promotion and equal pay
• Pregnancy discrimination
• National origin discrimination
• Racial discrimination
• Age discrimination
• Disability Discrimination
• Genetic Discrimination
  

2. 然后，查出你所在州的法律。比如：在加州，verbal abuse是这样的：
Verbal Abuse Is a Criminal Offense in California
One charge used by the state is Penal Code §422: Criminal Threats. Individuals face PC 422 charges if they threaten someone with: An act of violence. Physical harm.
以此类推，你可以找出harresment and discrimiation 的具体定性条款。
3. 咨询律师，请求帮助。律师可以根据你的case指明哪些行为可以定罪，哪些不可以。 如果要打官司的话，每个州的要求都不一样，所以需要具体查。而且，在米国很多律师最开始的咨询case是免费的。如果确定能打官司，才开始收费。

最后，宝宝们在米国一定不能忍气吞声的工作。不能总是迁就上级unprofessional的行为，尤其是当他的行为伤害到了你的mental health/career。如果因为工作上的事情被逼出现生命危险，真的很不值得。而且，如果上级发现国人不反击，他以后也会欺负其他国人。因为他可以觉得中国人就是好欺负、什么都不懂。。。所以，宝宝们一定要学会反击，法律就是一个有效的武器。

除非是骚扰短信/录音这种能一锤子锤死老板的，建议谨慎。工作上的矛盾锤不死他倒可能让你被开了。

文革那套互相告密、检举揭发的文化带到职场来了？

你今天 report 别人，不怕以后别人也偷偷录音然后 report 你？以后职场大家人人自危，见面聊天只聊今天天气不错！

同关注。。。。。。

最多就是对HR责任理解有误吧

有实锤。可是自己也会在组里呆不下去？公司层面对自己有什么影响呢。有什么更好的解决方法吗。

匿名用户 发表于 2021-08-30 00:30:24
文革那套互相告密、检举揭发的文化带到职场来了？

你今天 report 别人，不怕以后别人也偷偷录音然后 report 你？以后职场大家人人自危，见面聊天只聊今天天气不错！

这不是要看你说了啥吗 你要是今天要去炸机场 我不是不举报才**了自己

具体怎么个不当，你要说清楚，你这太笼统了