老板言语不当report to HR会怎么样？

看你和老板之间有没有信任，如果没有，换工作走人最省事。如果精力充沛，可以顺路把老板一路带走。

我report过，没用的。hr回来给我说调查完了，结果老板没有任何问题。

hrbp erbp毛用没有，都不是你的朋友，只有可能block你。说实话不知道都是干啥吃的。

涉及评论长相，生育了。

lz可以做下面这几个事情：
1. 首先分析一下你的老板言语不当属于哪个类型。比如：a. verbal bullying or b. harassment or c. discrimination, etc。当然，这需要你首先了解每一类的具体定义。
a. verbal bullying/abuse:
Here are some examples of what normal disagreements look like:

• They don’t dissolve into name-calling or personal attacks.
• They don’t happen every day.
• Arguments revolve around a basic issue. They aren’t character assassinations.
• You listen and try to understand the other’s position, even when you’re angry.
• One of you may yell or say something truly awful out of frustration, but it’s an unusual occurrence and you work through it together.
• Even if you can’t agree completely, you’re able to compromise or move on without punishments or threats.
• Arguments aren’t a zero-sum game: One person won’t win at the detriment of the other.
  

Consider it a red flag when the other person engages in these behaviors:

• They insult or attempt to humiliate you. Then they accuse you of being overly sensitive or say that it was a joke and you have no sense of humor.
• They frequently yell or scream at you.
• Arguments take you by surprise, but you get blamed for starting them.
• The initial disagreement sets off a string of accusations and dredging up of unrelated issues to put you on the defense.
• They try to make you feel guilty and position themselves as the victim.
• They save their hurtful behaviors for when you’re alone but act completely different when others are around.
• They get into your personal space or block you from moving away.
• They hit the wall, pound their fists, or throw things.
• They want credit for not having hit you.
  

b. harassment

• Sexual harassment: a supervisor asks an employee to engage in sexual activity as a condition of receiving some form of benefit at work (a promotion, a raise, retention in his/her job, etc.);
• Non-Sexual harassment: harassing conduct and workplace bullying create an abusive work environment for an employee.
  

c. discrimination

• Discrimination based on sexual orientation
• Gender-based discrimination including promotion and equal pay
• Pregnancy discrimination
• National origin discrimination
• Racial discrimination
• Age discrimination
• Disability Discrimination
• Genetic Discrimination
  

2. 然后，查出你所在州的法律。比如：在加州，verbal abuse是这样的：
Verbal Abuse Is a Criminal Offense in California
One charge used by the state is Penal Code §422: Criminal Threats. Individuals face PC 422 charges if they threaten someone with: An act of violence. Physical harm.
以此类推，你可以找出harresment and discrimiation 的具体定性条款。
3. 咨询律师，请求帮助。律师可以根据你的case指明哪些行为可以定罪，哪些不可以。 如果要打官司的话，每个州的要求都不一样，所以需要具体查。而且，在米国很多律师最开始的咨询case是免费的。如果确定能打官司，才开始收费。

最后，宝宝们在米国一定不能忍气吞声的工作。不能总是迁就上级unprofessional的行为，尤其是当他的行为伤害到了你的mental health/career。如果因为工作上的事情被逼出现生命危险，真的很不值得。而且，如果上级发现国人不反击，他以后也会欺负其他国人。因为他可以觉得中国人就是好欺负、什么都不懂。。。所以，宝宝们一定要学会反击，法律就是一个有效的武器。

要有证据，实锤那种。否则没用

有录音录像吗，有的话就冲

公司假如明确规定不可以私下录音 （eg 某麻），那么mgr在1:1里说啥都没有实锤了，因为假如你录音了，根据公司policy，你也要走人是不是？