零基础大龄女暴力刷题700+小结

ReadingEveryDay 发表于 2021-03-12 22:24:37
No size fits all, you are not aware of LouZhu's potentials in energy, discipline and self-image, peo

I don't think anyone would not admire her courage, determination and execution. I am definitely a big fan of her and believe she can get plenty of offers. Still it's no harm to give some alternative way of thinking for making more money--if that's what motivated her to move from chemistry to SW. I didn't say she has to become a teacher. She has full control of what kind of life she'd like to embrace.
IMO, different idea and different perspective is always welcome. I was just surprised there are so many people here on this forum that can not bear any different voice.

Background: saving after-tax $50k of private school tuition each year for each kid does sound attractive to me.

kool2000 发表于 2021-3-13 02:27
I don't think anyone would not admire her courage, determination and execution. I am definitely a b ...

You assumed too much and jumpted to the conclusion too quickly:
(1) You assume that lz's husband is also a SW. Where does that come from? There is always a male SW standing behind a successful female SW? haha, What you see is all there is.
(2) You assumed that lz's personality fits into a private school teacher. You didn't know anything about lz, nor the requirement of a private school teacher. e.g., when I think about my classmate, I can't image someone who has the potential of a CEO would fit into the role of a private school teacher.


Financial wise, a senio SW's income would definitely beat the 100k after tax benefit, let alone the self fulfillment and potential growth in the long term.


700 leetcode is not an easy milestone, it's a joke to me that a person who just finished 700 leetcode would consider becoming a private school teacher. She definitely knows what she is doing.





补充内容 (2021-3-13 09:48):
Last but not least, she didn't seek for advices.

kool2000 发表于 2021-3-12 12:25
"介绍一下自己的情况吧：30+， 化工硕士，毕业直接蹲家生娃，生了俩，主要老公和自己带，所以gap很多年。 ...

BTW, I don't understand the point of you bringing this up:

"多读书，少上网" by ReadingEveryDay

Is it another unsolicited advice you want to offer?  
haha, thank you, but I don't need it.

This is a brain teaser to sharpen my english.

Of course, people know what they are doing.

ReadingEveryDay 发表于 2021-03-13 07:39:02
You assumed too much and jumpted to the conclusion too quickly:
(1) You assume that lz's husband is

I didn't assume anything. Don't know why you think I assumed all of that. I was using "?"s and suggestive tone. Maybe teacher is a very much looked down career so my suggestion got so much hatrad and you guys love LZ so much that you think she is the god and went though all possible choices before heading on the SWE route and of course she doesn't need anyone's opinion but religious admiration. Be rational is my advice to you. I will take your advice to not advice you anymore as I gave up on you. The end.

kool2000 发表于 2021-3-13 12:09
I didn't assume anything. Don't know why you think I assumed all of that. I was using "?"s and sugg ...

You asked the question, but didn't wait for the answers before offering your advice. That's why I said: you jumped to the conclusion too quickly.

I respect teacher's work, everyone grows up with good teachers. But it's a totally different role from a SW.

If you adviced teacher over SW out of financial considerations, it is not a good deal.
If you adviced teacher over SW out of the consideration on family and children, that will be more groundless: you didn't know what role lz or her husband played in their family life.

Apparently LZ has made her choice and was heading to the role she planned. She is just here to share some experiences, not seeking for help.

kool2000 发表于 2021-3-13 12:09
I didn't assume anything. Don't know why you think I assumed all of that. I was using "?"s and sugg ...

I just checked your other posts, it reads to me that you are very generous in information sharing with good intentions, not trying to spread negative emotions. I appreciate that.

All my arguments were about your logic, not personal. I'm probably too aggressive in the argument, and I feel sorry if it made you feel bad.

In this topic, you are probably also out of good intention, just doesn't look carefully examed or valid to me.

手机看到这么多英文还以为机器人回复呢。。
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kool2000 发表于 2021-3-12 03:32
楼主老公是做软件的吗？你肯定能拿到offer的，但问题是之后的工作会很忙，很多要学习上手的东西，有两个小 ...

因为大家觉得你这些话默认把带两个孩子的工作放在了妈妈身上，妈妈很辛苦很忙。
给做一个好妈妈更人性化的选择。

带孩子是父母共同的责任，带两个孩子妈妈和爸爸都很忙，默认母亲为了小孩减少工作时间是不公平的
（夫妻双方协商怎么带是夫妻的内部事情和个人选择没有问题，只是觉得没有必要去让楼主三思……）