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本帖最后由 asianyoungman 于 2023-8-26 15:40 编辑
. From 1point 3acres bbs
还是太年轻,建议从“the subtle art of not giving a f***”看起,公司有mental health benefit的话,也找个therapist聊一聊这些,他们真的能给你一些终生受益的perspective。
一个小小的incident,不同的人有不同的看法:
- 你自己,两个星期了还在愧疚。也正常。-baidu 1point3acres
- 你的senior,估计特别兴奋,bug不是他们的,但是他们正好跳出来彰显自己的leadership。credit拿完,过几天也就忘了。. Χ
- 你的manager们,估计都不知道这回事儿,他们只要incident修好了,过几天就忘了。. 1point 3 acres
First of all, acknowledge that how you feel about it is not how other people feel about you. How would you feel when a coworker caused an incident? You probably feel bad for them. If someone on your team tried to blame you, or try to make a big deal out of this - they are manipulating you, they are taking advantage of the situation to make themselves look good. And it's not your fault.
At the end of the day, you have to tell yourself - well, shit hits the fan sometimes, it's just part of the job; and other people will forget about it 5x sooner than you will; let it go, and move on with your life. Look at the positives also: you learned from the incident, not just how it got fixed, but how people reacted, and how good people reacted, how bad ones reacted, how leaders reacted, and such (作为一个机会,看清楚身边哪些人落井下石,哪些人会站出来保护你). Mostly important, learn to protect yourself next time, not be the one to merge risky codes; not take the reponsibility alone; not be the one to be the scapegoat, etc. |
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