不要糊弄自己 Don’t be a cog

一个做了多年舒缓护理(palliative care)的护士Bronnie Ware列了个单子。由于她的职业，她见证了很多病人最后生命的3-12周，面对这些病人们情绪的变化，情感从否认，害怕，愤怒，悔恨，内心的极度失控，到最后的平静。她说所有的病人临终前都终归平静，不管是谁。而这个单子，记录了病人临终前几个共同的悔恨。
1.        I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2.        I wish I didn't work so hard.
3.        I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4.        I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5.        I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
原文可见Bronnie的博客：http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html

Paul graham, y-combinator创始人之一，网络应用开发的元老级人物，也看到这个博客
喜欢他总结的这句话：
If you had to compress them into a single piece of advice, it might be: don't be a cog. The 5 regrets paint a portrait of post-industrial man, who shrinks himself into a shape that fits his circumstances, then turns dutifully till he stops.

The alarming thing is, the mistakes that produce these regrets are all errors of omission. You forget your dreams, ignore your family, suppress your feelings, neglect your friends, and forget to be happy. Errors of omission are a particularly dangerous type of mistake, because you make them by default.

简单点说，就是不要糊弄自己。被身外环境打磨成了一台现代机器的后果就是永不停息的运作直到最后一刻。
而犯下这些错误的原因就是麻木。忘记了梦想，疏忽了家人，压抑了感情，大意了朋友，远离了幸福。只要不去主观改变，我们最终都会变得麻木。
于是paul的to do list就变成
Don't ignore your dreams; don't work too much; say what you think; cultivate friendships; be happy.

这篇转载+翻译的东东送给所有朋友。

积分不够，厄，只能发帖攒分，我要看一个帖子，大家帮帮忙啊

。。。。看到发在高效不拖区里面，我还以为“不要糊弄自己”，就是不要欺骗自己说今天的工作已经完成了，而要精益求精……
我这是早死的命啊

非常怀疑这种暗示方法是否有效

paul 的书《hackers and painters》非常好看，推荐

really?

If they had a second life, I suppose they would live the life they used to have again, then finally regret again. It's just what means to you at different times is totally different.

yimutan 发表于 2013-2-1 00:50
really?

If they had a second life, I suppose they would live the life they used to have again, th ...

Totally agree！

No one went to their grave thinking, “Gee, I wish I had spent more time at the office instead of with my family.” -Google Resume