美国就像一个围城

感觉是里面的人不愿里出来，外面的人不愿意进去。

比作围城不是很恰当。我觉得更像坐火车，上车要买票检票，下车没人管你，如果碰到高峰期甚至一票难求。而一旦回去了就更像坐监狱，进去容易出来难，毕竟有好几亿人都没坐过飞机，就更别谈出国了。

确实像围城，城外的人想进去，城里的人不想让城外的人进去= =

你在美国所以容易看着国内的好，比方好吃好玩的，在国内就容易觉得美国好，比方不用996，但不可能两头好处都拿。况且国内一线城市发展确实挺好，除了生活压力比较大，哪怕是土著。

如果美国可以随时想回就回的话我相信还是有不少人会回国试一试的。
现在的情况是回去容易，再出来就难了，这是一次性的单向流动，所以很多在美国的中国人还是在观望。。。。。。

Actually, from my observation of friends/classmates, no one with a healthy/normal brain(who don't have mental problem) wants to leave US apart from those who: 1. can't find job in US(or lose job and deported), 2. H1B not selected. They MUST return to China otherwise will be banned to reenty to US.
So, most people come to US to study/work and have only 1 reason: pretend to be a non-immigrant student/worker and immigrant to US permanently.
Then, those people who can't stay in US will pretend to put some posts or comments that they want to contribute to homeland, they will have more opportunity in China, more friends, more good foods and etc. (All of those posts or comments actually a reflection of a loser's mind).
All in all, please accept the reality, if you can't stay in US, be honest and say, I failed my American dream, I'm a life loser, please don't joke me when I'm deported to China and give me an offer to live in China for the rest of my life; if you can stay, when you get GC, be honest and say, I'm so proud of becoming a GC holder of US,  I'm the winner of life.

dragonlanding 发表于 2019-5-25 04:25
Actually, from my observation of friends/classmates, no one with a healthy/normal brain(who don't ha ...

赤裸裸的真心话

非常不认同某位喜欢打英文的朋友。
我认识好几个有h1b的人在美国工作几年就回去发展了，并且发展的很好，所以回去了的人就是“loser”？所以留下来的人就是“winner”？这是一种什么样的心态？不明某人是如何怎么定义“loser”？抽不中h1b就是了吗？你在中国是活在怎么个水深火热之中？难道留下来gk做家里蹲混吃等死等offer比你回国内上班到处嗨要来得体面？
我有个朋友因为抽不中签嫁给了美国人天天说不想回“北朝鲜”，天天发英文朋友圈，在背后不知道被人吐槽过多少次。也有人在美国找不到工作回国疯狂投大公司，自己资质不够高不自知，还说“国内的公司怎么敢bar这么高？”，所以在某些人眼里中国是一个low b非洲和北朝鲜结合体（我个人很喜欢非洲，纯属讨论经济发展）？
. Χ我好几个留下来当码农的朋友每次聊天就担忧未来前景怎么发展，并不是每个人都混得像一亩三分地的成功人士那样，我相信这些人只是正三角形上面的一小撮人。
对于我来说，我并没有觉得美国特别好，玩多了甚至觉得有点无聊，还特别想回国游山玩水因为小时候没什么机会和钱到处浪。有些人肯定会杠说，那你回去啊？我啥时候回去关你屁事你会少条毛？留在美国工作是因为我觉得我的专业在这里机会多，至少经验在五年内钱更多，五年以上留洋经验国内给得更多。再有，付了那么多学费烧了那么多钱当然要先懂得如何在最快速地回本，对吧？
反正我觉得我现在的状态就好像打游戏一样，排位到一定程度了就不想玩了，至于什么时候不想玩了，大概就是要到两次大师级别。

楼上这位说的太绝对了，各人的情况和背景不同，我认识的几位发小，要么一线城市土著好几套房子，要么家里有一定事业，来美国读书纯粹是为了体验不同文化，读完了回国要么收收房租国企做个闲职吃吃玩玩，要么回去接班，这样的生活不比在美国受异族人的气要好得太多？
我和你看法正相反，像我这样在国内无法保证自己生活质量才被迫来美国的人才是真正的loser

dragonlanding 发表于 2019-5-25 04:25
Actually, from my observation of friends/classmates, no one with a healthy/normal brain(who don't ha ...

You are either out of your damn mind or you are delusional. A‍‌‌‌‌‌‌‍‌‍‍‌‍‍‍‍‌‌‌‌s someone who actually grew up in the U.S., I can tell you no one in the 90's generation in U.S. actually believes in what you call the "American Dream" anymore - it doesn't exist, you can thank the boomers for that. And I can guarantee you not many who are highly educated actually think that somehow staying in the U.S. makes you a winner, otherwise a loser, get that trash mentality out of here. 最后奉劝你一句，既然会说中文，少在中文论坛上卖弄半吊子的英文。