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匿名用户-3AV9Z  2023-6-3 03:07:44
I would appreciate seeing any plea offer at your earliest opportunity. In this case, time is needed to adequately advise Ms. XXXX.
Based on the facts I have heard, it is said that Ms. XXXX employed a plastic clothing hanger to strike her 9 year old son, ZZZ. I understand that the medical providers consulted to examine ZZZ may be uncertain as to whether
some very limited scratches (or “marks”) were the result of the use of the hanger or were caused by a friend’s dog’s paws. Apparently, ZZZ does not know himself which caused the marks. As you know, YYYY provides a justification defense against a charge involving the otherwise unlawful use of reasonable physical force by a parent applied to their minor child. The statute limits the use of such force to situations where it is “reasonably necessary” to maintain discipline or promote the welfare of the minor. However, every state in our republic recognizes the wisdom of the appropriate use of discipline in the form of corporal punishment. The common element of such allowed disciplinary techniques is the non-accidental infliction of pain and even “physical injury”. As a parent of nine children (now all grown and successful adults), I could probably qualify as a “lay expert” on the subject. Depending on age and the specific misbehavior, sometimes “timeout” is simply ineffective, or worse, laughable. The common theme of the several extensions of YYYY justification is found in the use of the term “reasonable”. This exclusively human capacity to judge what is appropriate, is, I think, the central issue. Since pain and minor injury are allowed, where do we draw the line between allowed corporal punishment and abuse?
Also, substituting one person’s standard, for many (or even one other), must of legal necessity be used sparingly and with respect for the fragile institution of parenthood. Even UUU DHS seems to be a bit “at sea” when addressing the subject. In YYYY “abuse” means “any of the following, except that abuse does not include reasonable discipline unless the discipline results in one of the conditions described in this subsection”. The “rule” then spends several pages on actions that qualify as abuse, such as: “willful infliction of physical pain or injury”, or “verbal abuse” and so on. Of course, the exception has to be applied.
In sum, in this case, presuming Ms. XXXX was not witless or hysterical, her employment of a hanger as either threat or useful instrument cannot itself be criminal in the circumstances. Also, slight, fleeting, or mild pain is surely allowed. Even slight “physical injury” can be tolerated within the justification defense if, as here, the effect is minimal, although visually provable, like a minor bruise.
I apologize if the foregoing seems long and labored, but I intend it to reasonably support my recommendation that dismissal be considered. In my opinion, moms faced with having to deal with immature, willful, violent, and misbehaving sons are at enough of a disadvantage without setting them up for future conflict by enabling the child and providing him with a tool to threaten her.      

这是律师发的. 另外DHS今天明确告诉我根本不需要离开家. 他们对我没有任何限制.  我可以回家. 但我还是决定不要回去, 等律师确定好再决定. 不过一切是向好的方面. 另外我老公问过儿子, 他说他没有说过我从preschool就打他. 我现在目前还是多看看养娃的书籍. 欢迎各位推荐一下.
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匿名用户-3AV9Z  2023-6-3 04:55:13
唯一欣慰的事情, 我发现老公比我想象中更靠谱. 虽然他说话唠叨而且有点犀利. 但在我人生低谷, 他每天7点起床照顾好他们上学.  而且每天还偷偷给我送吃的. 打电话也要偷偷摸摸的. 还有花天价给我打官司. 他说等于送了2个爱马仕包包给我. 安慰有暖心又搞笑. 我知道自己不细心, 说话也不玲珑. 还天天与他唱反调.
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匿名用户 发表于 2023-6-2 16:55
唯一欣慰的事情, 我发现老公比我想象中更靠谱. 虽然他说话唠叨而且有点犀利. 但在我人生低谷, 他每天7点起 ...

这样的困境才能展现出你先生金子一样的品格。塞翁失马焉知非福。要是父母和孩子趁机修复亲子关系,改善心理健康,最后一定会完满渡过这个危机。不过心理问题的调节不会很快, 要有一年以上的计划。冰冻千里非一日之寒。只要父母充满希望,不断学习,调整控制自己,慢慢改善,最后会好的。
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匿名用户-PG7WP  2023-6-6 20:37:12 来自APP
匿名用户 发表于 2023-06-02 13:55:13
唯一欣慰的事情, 我发现老公比我想象中更靠谱. 虽然他说话唠叨而且有点犀利. 但在我人生低谷, 他每天7点起床照顾好他们上学.  而且每天还偷偷给我送吃的. 打电话也要偷偷摸摸的. 还有花天价给我打官
感谢更新 时刻关注进展 为你有个好老公 在人生低谷不离不弃还这么靠谱感到高兴
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匿名用户 发表于 2023-6-2 19:07
I would appreciate seeing any plea offer at your earliest opportunity. In this case, time is needed  ...

《你就是孩子最好的玩具》《正面管教》
推荐两本书,也是我自己正在学的。希望楼主不要自责,没有几个妈妈是一次就能做对的。加油,一切都会越来越好的!
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匿名用户-3AV9Z  2023-6-9 03:54:47
谢谢楼上的jms. 目前还是收集证据阶段。一切等律师回复.
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匿名用户-PG7WP  2023-6-17 10:43:28 来自APP
楼上有姐妹推荐书 我看过最好的一本育儿书叫raising a secure child 中文叫养育有安全感的孩子 基本就是把学术界证明的儿童心理和应对做成了一个环路 叫安全环路 孩子的任何行为都可以在环路上找到 你就知道孩子到底需要的是什么 父母可以怎么样给予支持 后半部分会提到父母的鲨鱼音乐 父母可以发现自身问题
祝好 祝你一切都顺利 期待更新好消息
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天呐,看着好可怕,熊孩子打不得凶不得,比纯纯看着他废了吗。实话实说虽然中国式严厉育儿不可取,但严厉手段及时纠正孩子的错误是非常有必要的。为自己以后的娃担心。
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匿名用户-3AV9Z  2023-7-27 03:46:06
起诉案子当时是misdemeanor. 从5月份到现在目前没有任何进展.我的律师除了收钱, 当时写过2封邮件就没有任何的进展. 他说地区律师district attorney/prosecutor一直没有回复他. 上次去了法庭大概3分钟就结束了,本来打算趁孩子们6月份放假回国让他们感受一下中国文化与美食,美景. 现在估计也渺茫了. 请问一下
1.  DS160 里面criminal 填写被arrested or convicted for any offense or crime 如果填是,是不是表示拒签机会特别大, 可能回不来.
2.  请问各位一般这种官司要好久
3.  如果地区律师district attorney /prosecutor一直没有回复有什么办法, 上次律师说可能因为我的case比较小.
4.  我感觉我的律师对我的case不够积极. 请问有什么办法?
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匿名用户-3AV9Z  2023-7-27 03:50:18
我的律师目前就只听我们的陈述, 因为还没有涉及上庭. 所以没有看出他对我case 有多熟悉, 用哪点去与驳斥对方. 只有一个字等. 可我等了快2个月了.
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