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[小学时期] 请教这种情况要不要给娃换班

   
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匿名用户-UT1PP  2023-10-3 08:04:30 来自APP
请起诉这种人渣
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匿名用户-GGRPW  2023-10-3 08:08:32
本帖最后由 匿名 于 2023-10-2 19:36 编辑
匿名用户 发表于 2023-10-2 15:54
感谢各位的批评 楼主确实要好好反省 同时也想听一下各位有没有建议 比如换班或者怎么跟学校沟通?
看了楼主的描述之后非常气愤,这是非常严重的racism,专门针对你的孩子穿小鞋。楼主一定要站在孩子的一方,对抗这种恶劣的歧视行为,不要下次轻易和这种心机这么重的“老师”邮件道歉,不然她更把你和你孩子当软柿子捏。

这些邮件都要escalate给所有校领导,说明原委。有些“老师”根本不配当老师。并且从孩子口中多问一些发生过的事例,一一列举出来发送给校领导,曝光这个“老师”的恶劣歧视行径。

并且一定要考虑转校或者转班,否则对孩子的身心影响太大了。


Subject: Urgent Concerns Regarding Teacher Conduct and Racism in the Classroom

Dear [School Principal's Name],

I hope this email finds you in good health. I am writing to express my deep concerns about recent incidents involving my child, [Child's Name], who is currently in [Grade Level], under the supervision of [Teacher's Name]. It has come to my attention that there are serious issues regarding my child's treatment in the classroom, which I believe require immediate attention and investigation.

Over the past few weeks, my child has been subjected to unjust and prejudiced treatment by [Teacher's Name]. The incidents I will describe are deeply troubling and have raised concerns about the teacher's professionalism and behavior.

False Accusations: Several weeks ago, [Teacher's Name] contacted me via email, alleging that my child had brought Pokémon cards to class and disrupted the learning environment. I addressed this issue with my child, and he admitted to the mistake. However, it is crucial to note that my child had already been reprimanded for this incident, and we apologized promptly to [Teacher's Name]. Despite our efforts to resolve the matter amicably, she never responded to our apology or acknowledged our commitment to ensuring a better classroom environment.

Unsubstantiated Claims: More recently, another concerning incident occurred when [Teacher's Name] accused my child of searching for Pokémon cards during a class assignment involving Chromebooks. She alleged that he had opened numerous tabs related to Pokémon cards, jeopardizing his schoolwork. However, upon investigating his Chromebook history, I found that there were only two open Google pages, all relevant to the tasks during  class, directly contradicting [Teacher's Name]'s claims.

Unequal Treatment: [Child's Name] has informed us that [Teacher's Name] seems to favor certain students, most of whom are of Caucasian descent, regardless of their behavior. Even when these students engage in inappropriate actions, she responds with leniency and humor. In contrast, my child and another Asian student have been disproportionately targeted for minor infractions, receiving harsh reprimands and public humiliation.

What raised further concerns was a recent incident in which I received a call from the school, inquiring about my child's absence due to illness during lunchtime. This alarmed me since I had personally seen my child board the school bus earlier that day. Upon receiving the call, I was on my way to the school, but before I could arrive, the school called again, stating that my child was indeed present and accounted for in class. This incident left me puzzled and raised questions about the teacher’s communication and record-keeping.

What deeply troubles me is that all these incidents seem to be interconnected, and my child has confided in me about something that has made him uncomfortable. According to [Child's Name], [Teacher's Name] seems to show favoritism towards certain students, predominantly those of Caucasian descent. Even when these favored students engage in disruptive behavior, [Teacher's Name] tends to downplay it with casual remarks like "Don't do that silly thing," without any consequences.

In stark contrast, [Child's Name] and another student of Asian descent have faced unjust treatment from [Teacher's Name]. For instance, when my child was accidentally hit by a football kicked by one of these favored students, he was the only one reprimanded. Similarly, when the other student was caught drawing on the desk with a marker, [Teacher's Name] publicly berated them in front of the entire class, threatening to inform their parents about the "shameful" act.

These incidents have left my child feeling marginalized, unfairly treated, and discouraged about their educational experience. [Teacher's Name] have deeply distressed my child and created an unwelcome and hostile learning environment. I strongly believe that these actions by [Teacher's Name] are indicative of racial bias, and it is essential that this matter is investigated thoroughly to ensure that every student is treated fairly and equally.

Given the gravity of these allegations and the evidence pointing towards discriminatory behavior, I kindly request a thorough and impartial investigation into [Teacher's Name]'s conduct. It is crucial to ensure that every student, regardless of their background, is treated fairly and with the respect they deserve. Additionally, I urge you to take appropriate actions based on the findings of this investigation to prevent any further harm to students and to maintain a nurturing educational environment.

I believe it is essential for us, as educators and parents, to foster an environment where all students are treated fairly and equally. It is my hope that you will investigate these incidents thoroughly and take appropriate action to ensure that such incidents do not recur. Our children deserve to learn in a safe, respectful, and unbiased environment.

I believe that a swift and comprehensive response is necessary to rectify this situation and ensure that my child, along with all students at [School Name], can learn in a safe, inclusive, and nurturing environment. I look forward to hearing from you and working together to address these concerns promptly. My primary goal is to ensure that [School Name] remains a place where every student can thrive and learn without fear of discrimination or unfair treatment.

I trust that you will address these concerns seriously and take the necessary steps to rectify the situation promptly.

Thank you for your immediate attention to this matter.

Sincerely,

[Your Name]
[Your Contact Information]

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匿名用户-USBVM  2023-10-3 08:10:31 来自APP
匿名用户 发表于 2023-10-02 16:54:10
孩子在学校遇到事情了,不做任何的调查取证核实,单方面的纯粹相信老师。。。

连让孩子做辩护的权利都没有。。而且还删除账号没收孩子心爱的物品。。。
兄台话虽糙理不糙 多谢多谢
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必须escalade,校board不管用就捅给媒体,总之要给受委屈的孩子一个交代

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匿名用户-GGRPW  2023-10-3 08:45:44
匿名用户 发表于 2023-10-2 19:08
看了楼主的描述之后非常气愤,这是非常严重的racism,专门针对你的孩子穿小鞋。楼主一定要站在孩子的一方, ...

现在好像没法编辑了,但第三段可能写的不准确,可以根据当时发生的具体情况略作修改。
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wawa291004 2023-10-3 09:40:46 | 只看该作者
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在美国孩子上学,每个家庭都有一定概率遇到这种对亚裔小孩态度恶劣的人渣老师,我们家也遇到过。一定要采取行动, 绝不能隐忍。当然具体怎么做看各家具体情况而定。
可以先和老师沟通,有些渣老师遇到态度强硬的家长就会收敛,那是最好。
不行就和学校领导反应,老师能有改善的话,大家就算过去了。
没有改善要坚决要求换班。
学校领导也不站你这边的话,也还有其他选项,没有什么大不了的,不可以让孩子在这种渣老师下面留下心理阴影。
我知道很多家长很担心动静太大对孩子有什么不利影响,所以会选择隐忍。我家的经历来看,其实没必要太多担心。我们家因为跨州跨大陆频繁搬家的原因,从小学到高中一直不停换学校,公立转私立,私立再转公立,covid还去上过网校,也没有对升学上大学有什么影响。
应对上可以有理有节,重点是不能让孩子委屈,要让孩子知道如果他被unfair对待,家里一定挺他。
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匿名用户-GGRPW  2023-10-3 09:48:53
wawa291004 发表于 2023-10-2 20:40
在美国孩子上学,每个家庭都有一定概率遇到这种对亚裔小孩态度恶劣的人渣老师,我们家也遇到过。一定要采取 ...

是的,这种恶劣的针对亚裔孩子的歧视绝对不能忍。请问你们家庭遇到的是什么样的情况,可以展开描述一下吗?
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ytsr 2023-10-3 09:57:38 来自APP | 只看该作者
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不回邮件肯定不行,同一个thread连发几次不回直接抄送校长说这个老师不回复邮件
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wawa291004 2023-10-3 10:22:42 | 只看该作者
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匿名用户 发表于 2023-10-3 09:48
是的,这种恶劣的针对亚裔孩子的歧视绝对不能忍。请问你们家庭遇到的是什么样的情况,可以展开描述一下吗 ...

我们就是一路提上去都没解决,后来直接换了学校。
当然我们这运气差了点,当时咨询其他类似家庭,有些很快就解决了,很多渣老师其实也挺怂的。
我们家搬家本来就频繁,情况可能特殊点。反正我们家孩子换学校家常便饭了,换学校也没当个大事。
具体到换学校,高中因为搬家和covid换学校二次稍微麻烦多一些,小学初中我们的感觉是换学校实在没什么问题可言。后来孩子大学也去了T10的人家。
当然升学结果这里不是重点,重点是要让孩子知道遇到unfair的事情,家里一定撑他到底。
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littletang 2023-10-3 10:45:25 | 只看该作者
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本帖最后由 littletang 于 2023-10-2 20:12 编辑

如果是我,看情况:1)如果孩子已经有了严重的情绪问题,比如厌学什么的,该转就转;2)如果事态还没有达到严重的程度,但已经有了让人不舒服的苗头,我会先尽快和老师约时间面谈,直接了当地说孩子情绪方面的问题,不管老师在不在意、改不改,让她知道家长的态度,不要随便拿捏。另一方面,会和孩子好好沟通,就像几位层主说的,一方面是道歉,另一方面也去开导孩子,有人喜欢,有人不喜欢等等,这些都是很正常的事情,很多时候不是我们自己的问题等等。

其次,根据面谈时老师的态度或者后续的观察,可以看下一步的措施,比如escalate到school leadership等等。

有些老师可能确实杂事比较多,回复比较慢或者比较疏忽。但如果约面谈这么明确的request,也不回复,直接escalate,没啥好说的。
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